Adoptions Plus

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Adoptions Plus
Adoptions Plus is listed in the Adoption Services category in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Displayed below is the only current social network for Adoptions Plus which at this time includes a Facebook page. The activity and popularity of Adoptions Plus on this social network gives it a ZapScore of 59.

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11811 Menaul Blvd NE
Albuquerque, NM 87112
(505) 323-6002

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Adoptions Plus has an overall ZapScore of 59. This means that Adoptions Plus has a higher ZapScore than 59% of all businesses on Zappenin. For reference, the median ZapScore for a business in Albuquerque, New Mexico is 35 and in the Adoption Services category is 46. Learn more about ZapScore.

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$40 dollars a month keeps one of these previous children in school with all the necessary school supplies and clothing... 100% of you donation goes to the children with no administrative costs ... and it's a tax deduction...donations can be made at be made at Www.adoptionplus.org

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All Age Adoptions Plus shared I Am Adopted's post.
"My parents made me feel like a success before I became one. I wish I could go back and tell that one kid who asked “why my real parents didn’t want me” that my REAL parents changed every diaper on the flight home from China. They took pictures at every piano recital, dance performance, and belt test – and they insist on front row seats to all my shows even when I only have like, three lines. Even still, sometimes, I don’t feel Asian enough to fit in with Asian people. I don’t look American enough to fit in with white people. It’s a dilemma that I have only recently learned to love and accept. But I’m not afraid to speak up now. I am not afraid to embrace my heritage. I am not afraid for others to see me as I truly am." *Please consider 'sharing' this post*
Dear Adoption, I Climbed Stories were an enormous piece of my childhood. Some nights, my parents spoiled me with three bedtime stories, or we would watch a Disney movie that I could quote in its en…

All Age Adoptions Plus shared Meaningful Ideas's post.
Sharing from a wise gentle parent ...
Children can be very difficult. This is a long one. I appreciate you taking the time to read it. I promise it'll be worth it! Children can be very difficult. They can tire us to our core. Tire us more than we knew it was possible to be tired! It can really be tough when our little ones are so challenging. We give them all of our time, love and energy and when we feel disrespect and a lack of gratitude from them, it hurts so much. To exist with our children in a relationship with constant Defiance and disagreement is exhausting. If there is throwing, swearing or hitting involved that compounds the challenge. The longer it goes on the more disconnected we end up feeling from our kids and the more disconnected they end up feeling from us. The traditional approach to misbehaviour and disrespect is to clamp down and try to regain control. This can appear to be working for a time, it's not hard to be fooled at first. If you yell at a kid and they do what you say it seems like the yelling worked. However there is significant damage to your relationship being done. When they're old enough to start rebelling, trying to stay in control will end up being a full time job. To be honest I'm quite sure we're never really in control anyway. We can certainly feel like it sometimes though. Feeling out of control can be terrifying. What will happen? We try and avoid it at all costs. And yet when we let go and trust our process and trust the path and process of our children, we can find more ease in life. Ease and joy amidst the chaos. There is effort involved to connect and reconnect to our little ones. It's not quick nor is it easy. We are complex and deep beings after all. You don't have to be perfect. No one is! Just making the effort to be connected and gentle consistently can have a significant effect. It will improve your relationship with your children and the environment of your home. It is a challenge to change the relational patterns we have developed in our families. They run deep. Often they started generations ago and are lodged in our subconsciousness. We cannot (ought not?) rely upon our kids to change. In order to make change in our families we have to change ourselves... significantly. Changing ourselves is extremely hard. It is important to give ourselves recognition and empathy for that hard work (even if no one else does). It is challenging to change and at the same time it's much easier than trying to FORCE a change upon our kids. I have found that the more I change and am willing to change, the more my kid is open to change. In fact this holds true in all my relationships. In life one of the things that guides our decisions, actions and reactions are the priorities that we set. Parenting priorities are super important. If we can create powerful parenting priorities, then we create a solid Foundation from which to operate. The problem is usually these priorities are unconscious in us. I wrote a beautiful blog about parenting priorities and I will post a link to it for further reading. http://www.meaningfulideas.com/competing-parenting-priorities/ In the traditional model of parenting, priorities tend to be focused around the behavior of the child. This results in a mindset focused on how to modify and alter our kid's Behaviour. When we are focused on this we see our children as a collection of behaviors that are either: good or bad respectful or disrespectful in line or not in line with our expectations. If they fall out of line suddenly they are a problem to be fixed. This is different than seeing them as human beings with Deep Emotions, a spirit and soul (if you're into that type of thing), having powerful wisdom and an equally valid perspective on life. This is where the conscious/gentle parenting philosophy differs. It revolves around a whole different set of priorities. In this parenting style our priorities are more concerned with what our kids are feeling and learning than how they're behaving. We recognize that behaviour is communication of their needs and linked to their stage of learning and development. When my daughter was born I spent a long time thinking about what I wanted my parenting priorities to be and I review them on a regular basis. The thing is I knew that in practice the priorities that I would naturally react with were the ones that were programmed into my consciousness by my past experiences. They are so deep that any unconscious moment and they come out. I certainly didn't want to repeat the same cycle of control, authority and punishment that I grew up with. It has been repeated for so many generations it's time to put it to an end. I should mention here that my mother actually started breaking the cycle. Against mountainous odds she did her best to parent us gently and with uncommon respect. She went against the grain and suffered for it from her environment. It is because of her efforts and sacrifice that I was able to shake off even more of the old paradigm and discover a new way. I wanted to do things differently so I decided to override my unconscious priorities with conscious ones. I made my relationship with my daughter my number one pirority. In all our interactions and whenever I have a decision to make I would ask myself if the choice I'm making is going to bring us closer together: as father daughter, as friends, as learning partners and as souls traveling along the path of life together. I know there is a common idea in the traditional parenting mindset that we have to be parents first and Friends second or maybe even friends never. Personally I can't stand this idea! I wanted to be my daughter's friend from the beginning. I don't think the problem is with being our children's friend. I think the problem is that most people who think this way have a poor definition of friendship. A good friend is always there for you. A good friend loves you unconditionally. A good friend has your best interest at heart. A good friend will tell you the truth when you need to hear it and will offer you compassion when you need healing. By placing relationship first on my list of priorities, all of my reactions changed because a lot of things were taken off the table. If I was going to focus on building a connected and trusting relationship with a deep foundation of mutual respect then I couldn't do things like: Spank Punish Yell Give consequences or Timeouts Those were the obvious ones that I recognized had no place in a relationship between equals who have deep respect for and care about each other. For example if my daughter wants to do something and I say no and she does it anyways, I can choose to react to her in that moment with the old paradigm or the new one. I can treat her as an equal or I can treat her as if I have power over her. How I treat her informs her about how she should be reacting to me and to other people in her life, because I am her primary model for Human Relationships. In order for me to punish her, give her a consequence or yell at her, I need to set myself up as someone with power over her and I use that power to cause her pain. The reason I mention pain here is that is the goal of all punishment and reward techniques. Without causing pain there would be no motivation to change or obey in the traditional way of looking at things. We think that they will want to avoid that pain in the future (or avoid losing the reward) so they behave how we want them to. We don't usually like to face the fact that we're trying to cause our kids pain so we soften that fact. I did not want to relate to my daughter that way because of the distance that creates between us. Instead of trying to force the issue, I prefer to work in a gentle and guiding way. Granted it can take longer, but the results are deeper and create a more connected relationship between us. As my daughter's guide through life I recognize that if I create a relationship with this kind of distance she would not be open to my wisdom or influence. She would not feel safe to come to me with difficult or vulnerable emotions. She might not call me if she was in trouble for fear of how I might react. I know of young people who choose to get a ride with a drunk driver rather than face the disappointment of their parents. I did NOT want that between us. Then I'd lose the ability to help her gain the skills she needs in order to become successful in life. Another parenting priority I consider fundamental is developing and Inspiring her to have a powerful and loving relationship with herself. I wanted to give her the strongest inner foundation that I could. I want her to know herself, to love herself and to honour herself in every moment. I want my daughter to know that I believe in her. I believe in her wisdom, I believe in her process and I believe in her path. Partially through the reflection of my faith in her, she has developed a tremendous faith in herself. None of this is permissive Parenting by the way, just to be clear. Permissiveness is letting kids do whatever they want from a place of being disengaged. This is something different. This is going with the direction of the child and trusting their wisdom around most things, except dangerous moments like running into the street of course (or touching a hot stove, eating poison, jumping off the balcony or any of the usual extreme objections I hear!). "Going with" means that you are with them, you are connected and you are guiding them through the whole process of learning and life. Your love and acceptance are reliable and secure through all the ups and downs, through every mistake and resistence. Definitely not permissive! It is actually much more involved than imposing rules, punishments and consequences or even something as subtle as expressing disapproval. "I'm not mad. I'm just... Disapointed." Ouch. In my experience and observation that type of manipulation, whether conscious or unconscious, never works out well in the long run. Creating an environment of harmony and mutual respect allows for natural cooperation to arise. There's a common perception that taking this approach will produce kids that rule the household, be disrespectful, entitled and think only of themselves. In fact the opposite is true. All of those negative behaviors and attitudes actually come from feeling a lack of connection and love. Disrespect and entitlement are protective reactions. We are trying to protect from feeling unworthy of unconditional love. The solution to a lack of love is always more love! No matter where you are in your parenting journey you can change. It's never too late. The Gentle Parenting philosophy starts in your heart! Consider letting go of all punishments and consequences. This alone is a huge first step. Even if you try and yell, punish and give consequences a little less it will have an effect. Drop them altogether if you can. You will look back upon that decision years from now and feel such gratitude to yourself. You will say: "Wow! I'm so glad I stopped punishing. I could have wasted all those years locked in power struggles, hoping to make my kid a good person." Instead you can choose to see that your kid IS a good person. When you see them as already good your job becomes helping them be who they truly are. This is a very different perspective on parenting. It places emphasis on creating that deeper relationship filled with a sense of love, respect and joy. Having a foundation of unconditional love and acceptance. Letting Go of all the moments throughout the day where we habitually create power struggles. We create them by wanting things done in a certain way, at a certain time, or at the very least we want it done! Letting that go and trying to place equal importance and validity on your child's perspective of things as your own. My Approach is always to go with the direction of children if possible instead of trying to force them to follow my direction. I have found that the times I need them to follow, they are more willing to do so from having had that very experience so consistently. This makes them feel much more connected and open to us because they sense that we are on their side and we understand them. There is a lot of work to be done. It's OUR reactions that need working on more than theirs. When kids feel us with them, deeply with them, their need to act out diminishes. One of my sayings is: "Kids are not acting out, they're reaching out." When my kid reaches out to me I want to be there. When they lash out and I don't flinch they learn quick that I'm safe. Of course I fail every day. Like seriously! It's not even funny. I do however make the effort to forgive myself so I don't carry that baggage around. Now forgiveness... that's a whole other topic! I hope this perspective helps. Feel free to ask any questions you may have. Peace Vivek Patel Check out my facebook page facebook.com/meaningfulideas and my videos on youtube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3kTQcw2kqHsxbdAKoyAQ76aZPW9CS8B Instagram instagram.com/meaningfulideas

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